January is historically always about optimism.
But February? Well, more often than not, this month is really all about guilt.
We approach our resolutions bright eyed and hopeful. We make a list. We check it off. We pat ourselves on the back for every single small triumph.
Until we slip up.
And then suddenly all of our accomplishments disappear from our memory. We begin to replace them with a new list.
We now have a record of our failures. And they seem to have added up so much faster than the good things we previously tallied.
They shifted our mindset. And our brains silently drew a conclusion from all the data: That we, as people, are just as bad as the decisions we got hung up on.
You might not have even realized this subtle shift. But you've probably operated on it as some point in your life.
Don't worry. You're not alone. It's in our DNA. Our brains are just hard wired to focus on the silly stuff.
The problem is, when we label ourselves as "bad," we tend to make decisions that are accordingly bad.
And this derails all of our intentions to cultivate real change.
Stop the train before you crash in a fire of anxiety and self-deprication, with a full bag of Tostitos.
When you find yourself keeping score and you need a little fresh perspective, come back to the present with this simple question: Ask yourself,
"What would a *blank* person do?"
And you can insert any adjective that fits your intention or describes the kind of human you want to be.
Good, smart, mindful, graceful, wise, responsible, enlightened, whatever suits you.
Me? When I don't know what to do next -- when I can't seem to figure out what the right thing is and I've been sweating the small stuff real hard...
How would a real ass, boss bitch, sophisticated lady handle her shit?
And then everything is quite clear.
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